This is here because people sometimes get confused or worked up about what I’ll loosely call “rape fantasies”, whether they exist only in people’s heads, are written out as fiction or played out as highly intimate theatre (roleplay).
I make no apology for fantasising about non-consensual sexy things, writing about them or even acting them out with friends who want to act them out with me. I don’t think it means there’s anything wrong with me, and I don’t think it means I’m being disrespectful or unhelpful to the victims or potential victims of sexual violence.*
Fiction is not reality.
Here, I’ll let Greta Christina explain:
It’s funny. When it comes to things that aren’t sex, people seem to understand this distinction. People get that enjoying spy novels doesn’t mean you want to join the CIA; that enjoying murder mysteries doesn’t mean you want to kill people; that enjoying heist thrillers doesn’t mean you want to break into Fort Knox. People understand that it’s fun and exciting to imagine things we wouldn’t actually want to do — even things we think are immoral.
But for some reason, porn often gets held to a different standard. Depicting a fantasy of a sex act is often assumed to be an endorsement of that act. So let me spell it out: I do not endorse sexual force, abuse of power, rape, or any form of violation of sexual consent. I am vehemently opposed to them.
I am, however, unapologetic about the fact that I like to fantasize about them. If we have any freedom at all, it’s the freedom between our ears: the freedom to think about whatever we like. And that includes sex.
- See more at: http://www.girlonthenet.com/2013/06/21/bending-dirty-kinky-stories/#sthash.xj9V5kcG.dpuf
*The category “victims and potential victims of sexual violence” is one that very much includes me, as well as many, many others.
I will employ trigger warnings and under-the-fold tactics to help you protect yourselves from things you find hard to deal with, because I care about your well-being.
May you be well, may you find hope, and love, and joy, and may you be safe. All of us.